It’s not uncommon for backaches to interfere with an individual’s love life. Often, when speaking to their doctor, people with back pain are reluctant to discuss how it affects their sexual activity. But if you find that backaches — or fears of re-injuring your back — put a damper on your sex life, ask your doctor for advice.
Here are a few suggestions that might also be helpful:
- Talk openly with your partner about your concerns.
- Avoid arching your spine backward. Try to keep your spine straight or bent slightly forward.
- When bending forward, be sure to bend your knees. Bending forward while keeping your knees straight puts a lot of pressure on your lower back.
- Avoid lying on your stomach or your back with your legs flat on the bed and extended straight out. If you can, keep your hips flexed to take some pressure off your lower back.
- Try positions that are easier on your back, such as lying on your side with your hips and your knees slightly bent.
- Be judicious and gentle. If your back is bothering you, don’t aim for long, vigorous, gymnastic lovemaking.
- Making love in the water — in a pool or hot tub — can take some of the stress off your back since water is buoyant and offers support.
- Be patient. Don’t try to resume sex too soon after having a backache. If you find that your back hurts when you resume sexual activity, wait a few days before trying again.
